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Post by SicJes on May 2, 2016 16:26:18 GMT
So I've been meaning to start this thread for a while. More and more of us are becoming parents and we all kind of stumble through it as best as we can.
So whether your kid(s) are a week old, 14 or 30 and living in your basement still, this is the place where we can learn from each other.
Feel free to share funny stories and moments, ask for advice or what to expect if your new to the party, shed some fears or anxieties and most of all, share the joys of having these little clones of yourself sucking the life out of you day in and day out.
We can all learn from each other.
I have 2 boys, a 4 year old and a 1 year old, so its like having two moody wild animals destroying my house and eating all my food. I'm new to this whole being a dad thing, and each day has its challenges.
Most recently I have the challenge of trying to get the 4 year old toilet trained (its back and forth) and explaining death in a gentle way to him since Grannie's dog died last week and its bringing up our cat we to put down last fall. In his head, he wants to take a plane in the sky and bring them back.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 16:32:56 GMT
 101 reasons to never be a parent - #1 |
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 21:24:26 GMT
Here's my tip:
Parenting books/courses are good but take them with a pinch of salt. As guidance tools, they're fine but every kid is different and just because he/she is not conforming to what is uspposed to be the "standard" is absolutely nothing to worry about. Trust your judgement. You will know your own child so go with that.
Also, don't be afraid or embarrassed to call in to the doctor if you;re worried about something. Even if it turn out to be nothing, or normal.
And Masto.... yeah screaming/crying kids can be trying. But all of that is insignificant when they hug you for the first time, smile for the first time or call you 'Dadda' for the first time. Trust me, if you ever have a kid(s) the first time you hold them will ALWAYS be the memory that you go to no matter what the situation. Your love for them is endless and without limitations. Yes, you get pissed off with them. Yes, you want to scream with frustration at times. But it is ALWAYS worth it for the unconditional love they give you and that you give them.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 21:47:48 GMT
I'll get a cat.
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Post by flibblesh on May 2, 2016 21:49:04 GMT
Daughter fell down 6 bare stairs (wooden, no carpet), bounced off the wooden floor, and giggled like a madwoman the entire way because the dog was chasing her down them.
Kids are hardcore.
Also, sarcastic and mean. At night, we'll give her a wash, put her to bed, then the wife reads a couple books/sings a couple songs, and I'll go sort the pets, tidy etc. Normally I'd say "I love you, see you in the morning" and she'd reply "love you!". This is sweet.
Currently, she'll say "Okay" and give me a grin. The bitch.
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Post by yepsure on May 2, 2016 22:00:00 GMT
Haha I agree with you on this topic. Kids drive me crazy, I have no interest in ever having any. I understand why some people want them, but it's sad to see so many people having kids because they feel like that's what they're supposed to do. EDIT: Sorry, I don't mean to hijack this topic. Feel free to delete if necessary. |
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Post by flibblesh on May 2, 2016 22:02:01 GMT
I have 3, I'd recommend a child over 3 cats. A cat is nice, cats are bastards. |
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 22:02:05 GMT
My daughter said her first full sentence the other day, I told her that we would watch her show on my tablet when she finishes her food and she looked at me and said "Come on you little bitch".
She didn't get to watch her show.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 22:21:16 GMT
I understand why some people want them, but it's sad to see so many people having kids because they feel like that's what they're supposed to do. That's a valid point tbh. You should want to have a kid because you want to not because you feel you have to. Agree on that point completely. |
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 23:10:45 GMT
Not advice or anything but I'm amazed how many illnesses and such kids can carry. everyone in the family was worried a couple years ago because my niece got threadworms. you know, if what mastodude mentioned isn't enough to turn you off kids, maybe them potentially giving you ass worms will  |
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Post by trailmix on May 2, 2016 23:37:50 GMT
Also, don't be afraid or embarrassed to call in to the doctor if you;re worried about something. Even if it turn out to be nothing, or normal. Good advice. At 6 months old, my youngen had a swollen eye. I thought he might of been tired/had allergies/been rubbing it, or something like that so decided to wait and see if it improved. My partner came home, took one look at him, and took him straight to the Emergency Doctors. Turns out he'd scratched his cornea. I sure felt like shit that day. |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 0:49:28 GMT
I understand why some people want them, but it's sad to see so many people having kids because they feel like that's what they're supposed to do. EDIT: Sorry, I don't mean to hijack this topic. Feel free to delete if necessary. I agree 100%. Almost every single one of my adult cousins and siblings is married with kids. Whilst I have absolutely no desire to ever do either. |
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Post by ford71V8 on May 3, 2016 1:29:28 GMT
Normally I'd say "I love you, see you in the morning" and she'd reply "love you!". This is sweet. Currently, she'll say "Okay" and give me a grin. The bitch. My youngest is 10 already and his reply to "Good night mister, Love you" has always been "I love you more". I don't know where it came from but its been like this for years, every night, ah he's so sweet. Just recently he has modified it to "I love you more....poopy". Hmmm Cheers, night buddy! |
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Post by majako73 on May 3, 2016 2:33:56 GMT
I have 2.5 year-old triplets. I'm lucky to remember my own name at the end of the day. Having said that, I have no advice except keep them on a motherucking schedule.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 2:35:54 GMT
I have 2.5 year-old triplets. I'm lucky to remember my own name at the end of the day. Holy shit dude, I feel bad for you.  |
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Post by majako73 on May 3, 2016 2:39:42 GMT
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Thanks for the condolences. Wait until your little girl starts talking ALL THE TIME.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 2:45:32 GMT
^ Thanks for the condolences. Wait until your little girl starts talking ALL THE TIME. Oh she already does but only half of it is understandable. She's getting there though and dear lord it drives me crazy. |
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Post by ford71V8 on May 3, 2016 4:32:08 GMT
Oh she already does but only half of it is understandable. This stays like this all the through the teenage years. Especially when she is with other girl friends. Volume increase also works exponentially by this point. |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 11:36:22 GMT
^ Thanks for the condolences. Wait until your little girl starts talking ALL THE TIME. Oh she already does but only half of it is understandable. She's getting there though and dear lord it drives me crazy. My dad has two foster boys under 10 years old and whenever I go round to see Dad - they literally will not stop talking or shouting either. As someone who craves peace and quiet - I couldn't bear having that all day every day. But I'm not built to be a parent. i just don't have that gene. |
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Post by Kimbo on May 3, 2016 12:19:44 GMT
Not all kids are like that you know
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Post by SicJes on May 3, 2016 13:19:35 GMT
I guess I got the noisy models. Mine never stop. Opening hours are from 7:30AM - 9:30PM / 7 Days a week.
It breaks my heart when they are sick, but god its nice to have them all drowsy and cuddly for a few days and not talking much.
Watching my four year old jamming to Cage the Elephant songs on his little guitar while trying to sing melts my heart though, so its a good kind of noisy. Im just dreading the day he makes a drum kit out of pots and pans.
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Post by flibblesh on May 3, 2016 13:26:07 GMT
It breaks my heart when they are sick, but god its nice to have them all drowsy and cuddly for a few days and not talking much. Tim Minchin actually sums this up nicely in the song "Lullaby". "That's it, close your eyes, shhh, not a sound I can barely see your tiny chest moving up and down One thing they don't mention in the parenting book Your love for them grows, the closer to death they look" I have 2.5 year-old triplets. I'm lucky to remember my own name at the end of the day. Having said that, I have no advice except keep them on a motherucking schedule. Schedule is the most important thing with kids. Break the schedule and life gets screamy, hyper and bad mannered. |
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Post by majako73 on May 3, 2016 13:34:14 GMT
As someone who craves peace and quiet - I couldn't bear having that all day every day. But I'm not built to be a parent. i just don't have that gene. I was that way for 40 years; still am to a large degree. Things are different when they're yours, though. |
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Post by Engel on May 3, 2016 19:44:42 GMT
I guess I got the noisy models. Mine never stop. Opening hours are from 7:30AM - 9:30PM / 7 Days a week. It breaks my heart when they are sick, but god its nice to have them all drowsy and cuddly for a few days and not talking much. Watching my four year old jamming to Cage the Elephant songs on his little guitar while trying to sing melts my heart though, so its a good kind of noisy. Im just dreading the day he makes a drum kit out of pots and pans. My daughter had a full drum kit in her bedroom for 4 years, took lessons, played them regularly. That, I could handle fine.. cuz she could play them. The minute my son hopped on for a 'play'.. hellish din. Luckily I had neighbours on either side with kids learning instruments also... trumpet and bagpipes. Mutual understanding :) |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 20:51:47 GMT
As someone who craves peace and quiet - I couldn't bear having that all day every day. But I'm not built to be a parent. i just don't have that gene. I was that way for 40 years; still am to a large degree. Things are different when they're yours, though. Another thing that scares me is - if they have something terribly wrong with them - which they either cannot communicate to you - or which will not ever get better . I couldn't do it |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 21:13:19 GMT
I never wanted kids either and then my daughter was born and it's the best thing that ever happened to me. At first it's overwhelming but once they start learning how to talk and run around it is the greatest feeling ever. Sure there are rough points but I wouldn't change it at all, especially when she falls asleep in my arms or says dada.
Time really does fly by though once you have a kid. I can't believe how fast she has grown up and now that she's at the point where she can hear something once and repeat it everyday is something different. She's singing the alphabet all the time which is awesome.
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Post by ford71V8 on May 4, 2016 0:47:51 GMT
My daughter had a full drum kit in her bedroom for 4 years, took lessons, played them regularly. That, I could handle fine.. cuz she could play them. The minute my son hopped on for a 'play'.. hellish din. Luckily I had neighbours on either side with kids learning instruments also... trumpet and bagpipes. Mutual understanding :) Trumpets Bagpipes and drumkit all being used by leaners..... I guess you see these signs around a fair bit.  Just kidding, having a kit and instruments in the house is a great thing. I grew up with my dads band literally practicing around my bed with me in it. I loved those times as a kid. We had guitars, bongos, keyboards and drumkit and I've done exactly the same for our home. |
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Post by ford71V8 on May 4, 2016 0:50:14 GMT
Time really does fly by though once you have a kid. This would be my bit of advice.... It goes so fast and all their little stages disappear before you know it, so embrace it all coz its over before you realise. (I have a small army of kids, so seen a lot) |
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Post by Engel on May 4, 2016 4:05:04 GMT
^^ this. They are grown before you know it. Blink and pfft! They are at university and working 9-5. Rewarding to see the grown ups they are becoming and they treat their mammy very well... spoil me rotten :)
I may not have planned to have kids as young as I did but I am glad it happened that way. I see so many women my age pushing prams and buggies and consoling tantrum throwing toddlers... and so glad that is a lifetime away for me :)
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Post by Engel on May 4, 2016 19:04:59 GMT
My daughter had a full drum kit in her bedroom for 4 years, took lessons, played them regularly. That, I could handle fine.. cuz she could play them. The minute my son hopped on for a 'play'.. hellish din. Luckily I had neighbours on either side with kids learning instruments also... trumpet and bagpipes. Mutual understanding :) Trumpets Bagpipes and drumkit all being used by leaners..... I guess you see these signs around a fair bit. Just kidding, having a kit and instruments in the house is a great thing. I grew up with my dads band literally practicing around my bed with me in it. I loved those times as a kid. We had guitars, bongos, keyboards and drumkit and I've done exactly the same for our home. One of the fun memories of that time was hiding it from her as it was an Xmas pressie. HUGE box and a neighbour had to lift it upstairs for me into my bedroom for I did not have the strength. Damn, time flies. How much of a brood do you have Ford? |
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